World feel upside down? Lost in the fog? Painted yourself into a corner?
Cool!
Healing starts in those places and it’s a grassroots job.
All change is like this. You have to start where you are if you want to move forward with any hope of sustainability.
Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.
– Theodore Roosevelt
Being a therapist, I often see people in the realm of personal development and healing shut down early in the process or not start at all. They short circuit themselves over the popular language of self-improvement. You know what I’m talking about.
CRUSH STUFF! MANIFEST STUFF! UNLEASH STUFF! ROCK YOUR STUFF! 5 STEPS TO HOT STUFF!
You know the drill. Tedious. Overblown. Dry. Even super fiery Doritos go stale over time. So do fiesty marketing slogans.
I sometimes feel the pull to do it too. I do. They sound so fancy and driven. Like the suggested magic might just work. But magic is as magic does, y’all. It’s a puff of smoke and an empty wallet. Those fancy marketing devices are created to make you look.
They don’t create the change. YOU do.
Another thing self-development marketing does is create and perpetuate that you are not ok as you are. That the changes and choices you make on the daily are not good enough.
I’m here to tell you a couple things.
One is that you are enough. You are excellent.
Excellence means doing the best with what you have right now. Excellence also understands that you have good days and bad days.
Secondly, YOU are the magic.
All those marketing calls to action are just keys that unlock doors you already possess. They are not creating something new inside you. YOU are the magic.
Knowing those two things, you can unleash and crush and manifest and rock all you want.
But, no matter what someone else teaches you, you have to take the action to make it happen. It all starts by taking a step in the direction you want to go. And then another. You don’t need magic, you need your own two feet.
Freedom is not given to us by anyone; we have to cultivate it ourselves. It is a daily practice.
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
Remember that making change is a practice and you only get there on your own two feet bit by bit. And if you need help, I’m here.